Slow sex feels better than fast sex
There’s an ever growing trend that sex (and oral sex) needs to be hard and fast to be optimal. That the rougher you are and the faster you go, the better sex you’re having. I definitely don’t mean to say that people shouldn’t feel this way. For myself, however, I cannot disagree with this more!
Maybe I’m alone in this (hence this sub), but it seems the faster I go the less sensitive it is. It’s similar to how rubbing your hands quickly across your skin feels annoying, while slow and gentle feels more ticklish and sensual. After some time, fast/rough is desensitizing.
It’s also more prone to accidents that kill the mood. Slipping out and hitting pelvis, bumping teeth, having sore hips (from what women say). Not to mention exacerbating uncomfortable elements like mugginess from faster breathing, more sweat, fatigue, etc.
Sometimes partners I’ve had seem to think I’ll get off quicker if they go faster. They always look perplexed when I tell them that slowing down will make me finish quicker. Almost every person I’ve dated or matched with in the last couple years has said they enjoy being fucked by Donkey Kong.